Man is a social animal and ought to socialize,
but with company around, there are times when egos tend to mingle along
as well. This could result in exchanges of words that could put a
strain on relationships. Continuous bashing of words with an individual
could turn ugly and lead to hatred.
The impact of hatred
Hating someone is injurious to one’s own
health since it causes anger within, and this annoyance can take a toll
on one’s health if it builds too high.
Mental balance applies towards good health.
Since health is wealth, forgiveness is the way to go. Forgiving someone
is like having a mental balance by letting go of any resentment or grudges towards an individual, which will help to clear the conscience and is very crucial for resolving relationships.
There are a couple of C’s involved in burying the hatchet:
Many a time, we are not aware of why we hate
someone and continue to walk on a path that disturbs one’s mental and
physical well-being. We should be able to recognize the pattern that
arises when we come across a certain human being. Once we are able to
categorize the pattern, we can move to the next step.
We should try to search within ourselves with
regard to what and how the individual has hurt us, and why we hate
them. Finding a cause helps us to bring closure within ourselves, and we
can open up to discussion within the self, and even with the person
whom we hate.
Coming face-to-face with the person whom one
hates is a challenge, but confronting the individual will lead to peace
of mind and a sound sleep at night. Brave up and face that person.
Once in the presence of the person who is
hated, start a conversation and communicate about what bothers you.
Being frank about what and how that person’s behavior irks oneself will
help both discuss issues, and will eventually lead to clarification.
Apologizing to the disliked person can do
wonders for one’s physical and mental being, bringing happiness and
contentment. Keeping one’s egos aside and expressing remorse is the key to forgiveness.
Be Compassionate with yourself
Once you forgive a person, be patient and
kind to your self. Time is a big healer, thus give time to
heal—physically and emotionally. Express your pain and anxiety, and do
not keep it bottled up. Appreciate the goodness of people around you,
and visualize a new life with positive energy each day. This will help
to shape each day free of pain and suffering.
Once you made amends, set your boundaries to
avoid repeating history so that you do not get hurt again. Be sure to
keep a good distance from the person who triggered chaos in your mind
and made you lose your sleep at night. Since we cannot change an individual, it’s smart to keep away from them.
Humans want to walk on the forbidden path,
and there are chances that we can get attracted to people who have
raised our blood pressure previously. Thus, retrain your thinking by
wishing well about the person whom you just forgave. Hope the best for
him while being intelligent and making wise decisions with respect to
your mental well-being.